I Need Some Advice/encouragement!

JulieCitySlicker · 11-23-2003, 07:07 PM

I've been thinking about my biological family. My mom would be about 48 years old now! She had me when she was 23 years old and I'm 25 now! I'm really thinking about trying to find my biological mom but I'm really kinda scared of what I'll find out I just know I should try to because I know I don't want her to die or anything and me to never get to meet her and find out all the things I've always wanted to know I don't know what to do or where to start

TeriB19 · 11-23-2003, 07:21 PM

Julie, there are probably thousands of agencies out there to help you in finding your biological family. But it will cost you. I'd do a search of the net for different reputable agencies, contact them and see if it would be financially feasible for you at this point. I wish you the best of luck.

JulieCitySlicker · 11-23-2003, 07:24 PM

Thanks Teri

I know of an agency , I think its called Big Hugs and its supposed to not be that expensive and 1-800-US Search. I have just never got up the courage to try them

TeriB19 · 11-23-2003, 07:35 PM

Well, Julie, we're here for you to give you the encouragement you need. If this is truly what you want then follow your heart. Have you talked with your family about this? There are so many different things to consider when thinking about doing this.

Sheila63 · 11-23-2003, 08:13 PM

Teri is right, Julie. We're here for you to help and support you. You need to do what feels right for you. I wish you all of the best.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Dogstar · 11-23-2003, 08:25 PM

Same here, Julie. In the end, you have to do what's in your heart. If that's what you really want, you should do it. It's a big decision and there is much to consider, but it's your decision.

!!!

marlsy · 11-23-2003, 10:09 PM

Go for it Julie!! You should at least try, you don't want to have regrets later in life that you didn't try to find her. Just keep in mind, it's not always a happy meeting........ It might not be what you want it to be, you never know the situation. But it might give you some closure of wondering all you life! Remember, were here for you!

JenRN · 11-23-2003, 11:46 PM

I agree, follow your heart! I have friends that are adopted and they had a lot of closure and peace after finding thier biological families. You can find out lots of info, like health info etc.. plus maybe she would be willing to talk to you about other things as well. Give it a try, we are here for you!

JulieCitySlicker · 11-24-2003, 12:22 AM

Thank you all so much:*HUGS* I know that these reunions aren't always happy, that is why I've put it off for so long

I have seen the stories of adopted kids finding their birth parents only to find out that they weren't really wanted or that their parents tell them that they were a mistake, I don't think I could handle hearing anything like that on top of the feeling of rejection that I already have from it. I think I have a right to know regardless of what the circumstances were. I guess I just need to put my fears and pride aside and do it! I really want to know , and to know my medicval history and family background. Not knowing anything medical wise in genetics or anything is scary

SCOTTSMYMAN · 11-24-2003, 08:23 AM

I think you should go for it! I had a friend who did it and now her and her mom are together all the time! Good things do happen! As everyone has said before me we are all here for your support Julie!

No matter how it goes it might help give you the closure you might need! Don't be scared be excited that you are adding a new chapter in your life and might now have even more family to love!!!

JulieCitySlicker · 11-24-2003, 11:52 AM

Thank you Kris for the words of encouragement

Siana · 11-30-2003, 10:52 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (JulieLovesCreed @ 11-24-2003 12:07 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> I've been thinking about my biological family. My mom would be about 48 years old now! She had me when she was 23 years old and I'm 25 now! I'm really thinking about trying to find my biological mom but I'm really kinda scared of what I'll find out I just know I should try to because I know I don't want her to die or anything and me to never get to meet her and find out all the things I've always wanted to know I don't know what to do or where to start

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i can uderstand ur fears and anxiety,but u got my support,i kow u'll take the right desicion,just u need some time to think what u should do first.and everything will be fine!

GoodGodGirl23 · 11-30-2003, 08:05 PM

I'm behind you to Julie my friend, whatever you decide to do.

JulieCitySlicker · 11-30-2003, 09:01 PM

Thanks Suzie

11-23-2003, 07:07 PM	#1
JulieCitySlicker USER INFO » Status: Taken Higher Posts: 15,310 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	I've been thinking about my biological family. My mom would be about 48 years old now! She had me when she was 23 years old and I'm 25 now! I'm really thinking about trying to find my biological mom but I'm really kinda scared of what I'll find out I just know I should try to because I know I don't want her to die or anything and me to never get to meet her and find out all the things I've always wanted to know I don't know what to do or where to start __________________ Oh I'm a wandering soul I'm still walking the line that leads me home alone All I know I still got mountains to climb on my own Enough To Let Me Go-Switchfoot

11-23-2003, 07:21 PM	#2
TeriB19 Forum Diplomat USER INFO » Status: Saving Grace Posts: 12,439 Joined: Sep 2002 Currently: Offline	Julie, there are probably thousands of agencies out there to help you in finding your biological family. But it will cost you. I'd do a search of the net for different reputable agencies, contact them and see if it would be financially feasible for you at this point. I wish you the best of luck. __________________ MK: We're never gonna have the Super Bowl of Scott Stapp vs. Myles Kennedy in a sing-off - it's ridiculous. SP: Actually, we are setting that up. MT: It was in your contract when you signed up with us.

11-23-2003, 07:24 PM	#3
JulieCitySlicker USER INFO » Status: Taken Higher Posts: 15,310 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Thanks Teri I know of an agency , I think its called Big Hugs and its supposed to not be that expensive and 1-800-US Search. I have just never got up the courage to try them __________________ Oh I'm a wandering soul I'm still walking the line that leads me home alone All I know I still got mountains to climb on my own Enough To Let Me Go-Switchfoot

11-23-2003, 07:35 PM	#4
TeriB19 Forum Diplomat USER INFO » Status: Saving Grace Posts: 12,439 Joined: Sep 2002 Currently: Offline	Well, Julie, we're here for you to give you the encouragement you need. If this is truly what you want then follow your heart. Have you talked with your family about this? There are so many different things to consider when thinking about doing this. __________________ MK: We're never gonna have the Super Bowl of Scott Stapp vs. Myles Kennedy in a sing-off - it's ridiculous. SP: Actually, we are setting that up. MT: It was in your contract when you signed up with us.

11-23-2003, 08:13 PM	#5
Sheila63 USER INFO » Status: Opened My Eyes Posts: 5,748 Joined: Dec 2002 Currently: Offline	Teri is right, Julie. We're here for you to help and support you. You need to do what feels right for you. I wish you all of the best. {{{{HUGS}}}} __________________ I was selfish, but you still loved me You gave the greatest gift of all And you set me free Relearn Love

11-23-2003, 08:25 PM	#6
Dogstar Forum Diplomat USER INFO » Status: Young Grown Old Posts: 21,345 Joined: Sep 2002 Currently: Offline	Same here, Julie. In the end, you have to do what's in your heart. If that's what you really want, you should do it. It's a big decision and there is much to consider, but it's your decision. !!! __________________ Silly monkeys give them thumbs they make a club and beat their brother down. How they survive so misguided is a mystery.

11-23-2003, 10:09 PM	#7
marlsy USER INFO » Status: Prophet Man Posts: 3,230 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Go for it Julie!! You should at least try, you don't want to have regrets later in life that you didn't try to find her. Just keep in mind, it's not always a happy meeting........ It might not be what you want it to be, you never know the situation. But it might give you some closure of wondering all you life! Remember, were here for you! __________________ ~Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent~

11-23-2003, 11:46 PM	#8
JenRN USER INFO » Status: Tree of Wisdom Posts: 7,519 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	I agree, follow your heart! I have friends that are adopted and they had a lot of closure and peace after finding thier biological families. You can find out lots of info, like health info etc.. plus maybe she would be willing to talk to you about other things as well. Give it a try, we are here for you! __________________ "I don't want to know emptiness, take me down to the water wanna be baptized in your love far away from the lonliness, take my heart and wash away the fear let me be baptized in your love" ~Lenny Kravitz "Baptized"

11-24-2003, 12:22 AM	#9
JulieCitySlicker USER INFO » Status: Taken Higher Posts: 15,310 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Thank you all so much:HUGS I know that these reunions aren't always happy, that is why I've put it off for so long I have seen the stories of adopted kids finding their birth parents only to find out that they weren't really wanted or that their parents tell them that they were a mistake, I don't think I could handle hearing anything like that on top of the feeling of rejection that I already have from it. I think I have a right to know regardless of what the circumstances were. I guess I just need to put my fears and pride aside and do it! I really want to know , and to know my medicval history and family background. Not knowing anything medical wise in genetics or anything is scary __________________ Oh I'm a wandering soul I'm still walking the line that leads me home alone All I know I still got mountains to climb on my own Enough To Let Me Go-Switchfoot

11-24-2003, 11:52 AM	#11
JulieCitySlicker USER INFO » Status: Taken Higher Posts: 15,310 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Thank you Kris for the words of encouragement __________________ Oh I'm a wandering soul I'm still walking the line that leads me home alone All I know I still got mountains to climb on my own Enough To Let Me Go-Switchfoot

11-30-2003, 09:01 PM	#14
JulieCitySlicker USER INFO » Status: Taken Higher Posts: 15,310 Joined: Oct 2002 Currently: Offline	Thanks Suzie __________________ Oh I'm a wandering soul I'm still walking the line that leads me home alone All I know I still got mountains to climb on my own Enough To Let Me Go-Switchfoot

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