My guess is that he hasn't been a member for very long. You should tell him to get more information from his Bishop and knowledgeable people in the church. What you posted of what he said kind of sounds like something that would be on the Internet. I, however, have been a member for over 18 years, so I think I know what's going on.
IMO, feminists are all full of quite a large amount of BS. "A mormon lady who claims to be feminist isn't"
I have no idea what you're talking about.
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